Self-empowerment is taking control of our own lives, setting goals, and making positive choices. Basically it means that we have to understand our strengths and weaknesses, and have belief in ourselves.
As humans, the problem majority of us are facing is the inability to own up to our lives and accept who we are and what we have become. Although, accepting all this does not mean you have done good with your life, it simply means you’re ready to reshuffle!
The secrets to living a self-empowered life is ‘awareness, once you are aware that you are giving away your power through fear and blaming, you are more than halfway there.’
Taking personal responsibility has a long way to go, At a very low point in my life when I felt that nothing I did was working, I felt like I had made a lot of mistakes and there was no way it could be corrected,I felt like I gave up. In hindsight I realized that I didn’t give up, I just decided to accept everything and everyone the way they were, and of course I had to accept that I had failed. I let my feelings be known and accepted whatever came next.
Now I take full responsibility for my actions and my circumstances, When things are not the way I would like them to be, I look at how I got myself into the situation and how I can get myself out. I feel more open and compassionate of others. Things are easier and I’m a lot happier.
The essence of self-empowerment is personal responsibility– taking full and complete control and accountability for your own life and circumstances. And this is both liberating and totally scary.
Little things you can do to empower yourself
Confidence is learned, everyone has fears and insecurities but you can learn to be self empowered with patience and determination.
1. Accept that life is full of mistakes and changes. Uncertainty about the future is normal, and the ability to recover from mistakes and failures is essential for mental resilience and empowerment.
2. Pick something small you have wanted to change and make it happen. Several small decisions can be as powerful as one large life decision.
3. Remember to be kind to yourself. Give yourself encouragement and only engage in compassionate internal dialogue. Don’t let the demons or self doubt to creep in.
4. Trust is the quality that propels you forward toward being a better decision maker. Make your choices and stick with them. Trust your own judgment and ability to decide. Having trust involves having faith in the self-empowerment process, as well as in the process of life. Trusting others allows you to let go of worry, doubt, and dread.
5. When you lie, you feel guilty. Guilt leads to shame. Shame leads to feelings of worthlessness. Honesty is really the best policy when it comes to self-empowerment. Don’t treat yourself any differently than you treat others. Be truthful with yourself.